If we ask how we choose partners, we are surprised to hear that mate choice is always narcissistic and that means choosing the another by some trait of his that reminds us of ourselves: to what we were, who we are, what we want to become, a donor mother, who let me or give, or the protective father, that is, who protects or let me protect you. In general, choose the image itself or an image of the mother or father. You could say that we love ourselves in the other.
is very difficult to really love the other in its true dimension. Beyond the limits of narcissistic love or family love (the parents). Having a joint project with the other, a love productive.
Men and women love differently. Is a structural issue, they tend to choose who is loved, by his own image or the likeness of the mother, they often choose who loves them as his own image, the image of the mother or the father image. Or the opposite, that the unconscious is the same. (Ie, choose a man totally opposed to the father, is also choose from the father).
subject position of women about love, where it is more important to be loved to love, sometimes taken to extremes that the first thing he said as a compliment, that makes her feel loved, with that is home, and then repents in a lifetime occasions, or marriage falls apart immediately.
And also point out that there are many who love as a form that could be called women, and women who love as a male form.
addition narcissistic love is ambivalent (mixed hostile and loving feelings), almost all close relationships of some duration between two people, marriage, friendship, parental love and filial leave a deposit of hostile feelings pass on an unconscious level, shown, for example, when we see two members or a couple of continuous fighting, or a subordinate mutter incessantly against the superior, or when two families joined by marriage, each is considered better and more distinguished than the other, and that is the source of many discussions.
any lasting relationships are not easy starting point and it is not easy to keep in permanent construction.
Among the different problems that can lead to consult a partner, is jealousy. Jealousy is a sign of love, so when they appear when there is a reason they are tolerable, but when they appear when he or she is at work, become unbearable. There are women and men jealous of everything that your partner put your attention, whether man, woman, friend, or a sport, work, anything to distract the pair of them.
The jealous enters a sadness that has been in extreme situations do not work to become chronic constant companion or caretaker, or family abuse arises out of jealousy, a mixture of love and revenge.
is very difficult to really love the other in its true dimension. Beyond the limits of narcissistic love or family love (the parents). Having a joint project with the other, a love productive.
Men and women love differently. Is a structural issue, they tend to choose who is loved, by his own image or the likeness of the mother, they often choose who loves them as his own image, the image of the mother or the father image. Or the opposite, that the unconscious is the same. (Ie, choose a man totally opposed to the father, is also choose from the father).
subject position of women about love, where it is more important to be loved to love, sometimes taken to extremes that the first thing he said as a compliment, that makes her feel loved, with that is home, and then repents in a lifetime occasions, or marriage falls apart immediately.
And also point out that there are many who love as a form that could be called women, and women who love as a male form.
addition narcissistic love is ambivalent (mixed hostile and loving feelings), almost all close relationships of some duration between two people, marriage, friendship, parental love and filial leave a deposit of hostile feelings pass on an unconscious level, shown, for example, when we see two members or a couple of continuous fighting, or a subordinate mutter incessantly against the superior, or when two families joined by marriage, each is considered better and more distinguished than the other, and that is the source of many discussions.
any lasting relationships are not easy starting point and it is not easy to keep in permanent construction.
Among the different problems that can lead to consult a partner, is jealousy. Jealousy is a sign of love, so when they appear when there is a reason they are tolerable, but when they appear when he or she is at work, become unbearable. There are women and men jealous of everything that your partner put your attention, whether man, woman, friend, or a sport, work, anything to distract the pair of them.
The jealous enters a sadness that has been in extreme situations do not work to become chronic constant companion or caretaker, or family abuse arises out of jealousy, a mixture of love and revenge.
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